My 4yr olds response when Mommy answered his “When are we leaving” question for the tenth time.
Now, he just cuts straight to the chase and asks, “How many Soons until we leave?”
The anticipations and sense of time of a child is an amazing thing. My dad once taught me that children were the best negotiators. They have what it takes. Will and TIME. These fluttering minds bouncing from thought to thought and subject to subject often seem chaotic and with no attention span, but don’t be fooled. Once locked in, the child’s mind has deadly laser focus and devastating power of deployment. Once they set their mind to the negotiation, they have nothing but time on their side and constant will. You can say “no” ten thousand times yet a child only sees an opportunity to restate or re-purpose their request once again.
Here is where parent’s steely resolve is tested. Remember, if you say no 10,000 times and cave to the child’s request on the 10,001st time. You have only taught them that they have to ask 10,001 times, and that certainly is no problem for them.
Ultimately we parents will lose to these negotiation masters, but hopefully will hold fast when it comes to the critical battles that teach our children character and truth about our world. Allowing them enough success for good self esteem without allowing them to run a foul without any sense of boundary or rule.
I personally want my children to push boundaries and bend the rules, but they have to firmly know the boundaries and rules as well as the consequences before this can be successfully done.
Now… I have to stop this post. The 7yr old has asked to use the computer 20 times since I started typing and I cant hold out any further.
My father always taught me, “If your not going to do it right, then dont do it at all.”
In residency, I was scheduled patients every 10mins because i had to “learn how to maintain a practice”.
I hated it. My patients hated it. At the end of the day my care sucked. not because I was a poor doctor but simply because I had no where near enough time to “Do it right!”
That was almost 10yrs ago, I now have a housecall practice where I see 8-10 patients a day giving each my undivided attention.
I work my butt off and have full days, but at the end of the day my patients are happy and I am proud of the work I have done. I love what I do.
I’m a little tired of hearing this argument of how “If Primary care docs start only seeing 10-15 patients a day, then who’s going to see everybody else?” This argument always seem to come from academics who have rather cushy pay and benefits with no real worries of malpractice or billing issues as they are shielded by their institutions. Quite disingenuous for such academics to bemoan how “WE all suffer” because some physicians (who don’t have institutional protections and benefits) have decided to practice in a simpler more full filling way. Which, by the way, as Dr Drummond noted does not have to be cost prohibitive…. Why when we talk about PCPs making a little more money we are somehow demonized for it?
Why should I be forced to see increasing numbers of patients with worsening reimbursement simply because the “system” has done a wonderful job of discouraging people from going into primary care?
Why is that my problem?
I love my patients. I love what I do and at the end of the day, if i’m forced to give mediocre care to 20-40 patients a day, well then,
I just wont do it.